I have written many articles on the various challenges involved when a person is thinking about divorce or is divorced and is working through the unending aftermath of the disruption. I recommend you read them on our website. “Meet me at McDonalds. I have something look here to tell you.” When Patrick suddenly sent me this text, I knew it couldn’t be a good thing. Just three weeks before, I found his profile on the punchline of all religious dating sites, Christian Mingle. He was a divorced, non-smoking Catholic and Spanish-to-French translator in the textbook industry. Just over six feet tall, his credentials included photographs that were not blurry and taken by someone other than himself. He was handsome, wore glasses, was going slightly gray, and edged a little on the nerdy side: perfect.